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welcome to scaling up h2o the podcast
where we’re scaling up on knowledge so
we
don’t scale up our systems hello scaling
up nation
trace blackmore here the host of scaling
up h2o and here is another
brand new episode as promised
each and every friday folks we’ve got so
much coming up in the industrial water
treatment world
of course in just a few weeks we are
going to have the association of water
technologies
virtual conference that’s going to be
september 30th
through october 2nd i’m going to be
there
i’ve got some exciting news to share
with you
during the conference so much going on
there
and the fact that it’s virtual means
that
i don’t have to pick and choose of all
of the great
papers that are being presented this
year like i normally do
i can watch at my own leisure
each and every presentation and
folks i always get so much information
when i go to the awt conference
i’m super excited this year i’m a little
bummed out that i’m not going to see
all of the scaled up nation all my
friends
in person but the next best thing
is we do have a virtual booth that we
are
hosting at the awt conference so you
will have some opportunities
to come by the booth talk to me live
i’m still learning how that’s going to
happen so
i’m not able to tell you about that
right now but i’m sure we will know by
the time the conference comes around
we can schedule time to talk maybe we
can do some live sessions
we’re going to have an opportunity so
you can very easily
leave your question on a voicemail
for the show at our booth we’re going to
be sharing
tips about scaling up h2o matter of fact
we’ve got
a little bit of everything at our booth
for
everybody so you’re going to learn more
about the podcast
for those of you of course you wouldn’t
be listening now because you haven’t
listened to the show before
but for people that stumble across our
booth and they can learn
about that there is an industrial water
treaters podcast they can learn
how they can subscribe all of that stuff
that’s there for them for you out there
in the scaling up nation you’re going to
learn some new things about
the scaling up nation about our website
about some things you can do there
you can leave us a voicemail with your
question for a future show
you can also log directly in and leave
your question
on the email form that we have
for you so a whole bunch of stuff for
the scaling up nation
and i know people are very curious about
the rising tide
mastermind and in the past we have had
guests on that were members of the
rising tide mastermind
and we’ve just asked them some questions
well folks if you stop by the booth
you can watch a video of exactly what
goes on in the mastermind
we’ve had several members of the
mastermind help us out with an
abbreviated video so you can see
exactly what you are getting involved in
i’ve also asked several of those members
to talk about their experience with the
rising tide mastermind
so you can see why they’ve chosen to
spend their time
and to spend their money at the rising
tide mastermind
and all of the things that they are
getting
out of it and then finally we’re going
to have some information for those of
you out there that have
a product or service that will match
well with the scaling up h2o podcast
we’re going to let you know how you can
advertise your
product on this very podcast so a little
bit of something for
everybody but i hope you stop by
especially during the live sessions and
see
me again i love to go around and shake
hands i don’t even know if we’re allowed
to shake hands anymore
but i’ll always love the convention
because i get to
meet so many people out in the scaling
up nation
and i get so many stories about what
scaling up h2o has
done for people as they’re going around
to and from accounts things that they’ve
learned
how they’ve actually changed some
emotions they might have been having a
bad day
and now all of a sudden they’re thinking
a little bit more positively
because they’re not alone there’s a
voice coming through
their car stereo and they’re thinking
you know what
i am not alone i am part of a tribe and
that tribe is the scaling
up nation also some more information
about the association of water
technologies virtual conference
in addition for me
having a booth there for the scaling up
h2o team
having a booth there we are also and i
say we
i mean my partner jill cavano of
scranton associates
we are doing a webinar on all sorts of
things that we
learned during the pandemic and folks
let me tell you we are still
learning new things we’re going to be
covering a whole host of topics
like company culture human resources
financial issues such as economic
recovery
the continued lessons that we’ve learned
in both of our companies and then also
how do we look
toward the future so we’ve got all of
this
during that presentation and you can
watch that like i said
any time you like you just have to find
the link
and watch the video we’re going to try
to link to it from our booth as well to
make it very easy
for you to find but we are also
going to host a live event
jill and i are going to be answering
questions
at a learning lounge on wednesday
september 30th so that’s the opening day
between
3 and 3 30 p.m
eastern time so if you watch the video
you have some questions
you can sign on to that you can ask us
some questions
or maybe you just have some other
questions that you want to ask us that
didn’t have anything about the video
feel free to do that again that’s going
to be september 30th
from 3 to 3 30. so excited about the awt
i hope you are going i hope somehow i
get to see you
if you are going and folks that’s not
the only thing that i am
excited about the very next week after
the conference
is industrial water week it is the only
holiday for us water treaters that we
get to
celebrate each and every year
not just for one day not just for two
days
three days or four days the entire
week we are going to be celebrating a
different
aspect of every facet of
industrial water treatment we’re going
to start out monday
with pre-treatment tuesdays
boilers wednesdays is cooling
then thursday we’ll talk about waste
water and we’ll wrap it up on friday
with careers
folks each and every year we try to do
something special for this entire week
we will deliver you a brand new
episode each and every day of industrial
water week
the week of october 5th through 9th
so you would want to tune in each and
every day we’re going to have
things that we’ve never done before
during industrial water week
we’re going to make it a lot of fun
we’re going to try to pull in a lot of
social media because we can’t see each
other like we
normally do at the awt convention or
other places
we’re going to use social media we’re
going to use hashtags
to make sure that we can see each
other’s
videos each other’s pictures i’m going
to give you some challenges to do
each and every day and we’re just going
to have
fun with industrial water week
and it’s my hope that after industrial
water week
you continue on that high and
we just blow the rest of this year out
of the water
pun intended and we just have a great
rest of 2020. well speaking of having a
great
rest of 2020 my speaker today i think
can help
us do this her name is trisha malloy
and she is a speaker on work life
balance her mission is to help us reduce
stress
achieve goals and enjoy a better
balance in life she’s been on the today
show
she’s been on numerous networks trisha
is a
speaker a coach and an author
and let’s face it if there is a year
where we need to focus on better work
life balance it is 20 20. 2020 has just
rewritten the rules on
absolutely everything that we’re doing
many of us are doing
more work from home now than we ever had
which means we’re working at home and
we’re not
spending time on other things like our
families
like hobbies all the things that we used
to do in the past for stress relief
we’re not doing because it’s so easy to
work from home right now
now some of us have worked from home
from a long time and we have struggled
with this
for years so i’m thinking that today’s
episode
will help us all out quite a bit so i
hope
you enjoy my interview
with speaker coach and author trisha
malloy
my lab partner today is trisha malloy
and trisha
thank you so much for joining us today
on scaling up h2o
you and i recently met at the event that
i shared with the scale up nation
a few months ago where i did a
ted talk for my business coach tim
fulton so
how are you i’m doing great it’s
wonderful to be with you
well i really enjoyed your speech i was
sharing with you before we started
recording that i don’t remember a lot of
it because i was really into what i had
to do that day
so i’m going to be learning right along
with the scaling
up nation but a couple weeks back i did
share
my ted talk experience with the nation
and i know you haven’t listened to that
but i’m kind of wondering
what was the process that you went
through when
tim asked you to speak well i speak for
a living
so that made it a little bit easier
perhaps than for you
i’ve been presenting this program for um
oh gosh maybe 10 years now just keep
updating it as i go along and i get
inspired by my audience
and what they have to share with me but
i think the toughest part is
is what what do we have 15 minutes that
was the toughest part i i
usually speak for an hour an hour and a
half and
we didn’t we weren’t allowed because it
was a ted talk to have much interaction
with the audience
so that was a little tough but it was a
great group and i i really enjoyed all
the speakers
i i really enjoyed your talk i guess
maybe because i was
it’s gonna sound uh hope you taken the
right way i wasn’t expecting
uh a lot and because you weren’t a
professional speaker but you were so
entertaining i really enjoyed your
energy
i did not know tim was going to do what
he did when he got up and say that i
wasn’t on a
professional speaking circuit so
i guess he did that to lower the bars
that’s why everybody’s expectations were
down there
so you mentioned you are a professional
speaker tell us a little bit about that
i am so i’ve had a marketing business
for
31 years now and because i love to write
i decided that i would write a book
about how i how i run my business and
how i look at life
and the strategies that i’ve used that
have helped me along the way
and really it was about halfway through
the book that i thought well maybe i’ll
actually start speaking about this
and so when the book came out which was
in 2006
i started speaking i started speaking at
companies and professional associations
and learned about how to share this
message with more people
and now i just i’d love to speak so most
of my work now is
in speaking and very little is in
marketing right now the only thing i do
with marketing is i
i interview my clients clients and write
testimonial quotes
but other than that it’s all about
speaking and
what are some of the things that you
speak about so i’m
i’m an expert on how to develop a
positive mindset to achieve goals
and to enjoy better balance so the crave
your goals program is all about
goal getting and then i do a program on
better balance where i i talk about the
why the what
and the how of uh what most people
the term that most people use is work
life integration you know there is no
such thing as perfect balance but
there are ways to integrate your work
and your the rest of your life so that
you
can you know protect your health you can
have better relationships you can be
more
productive so i love doing that and the
third thing i do is i facilitate
vision board workshops for typically
high potential employees
and have you ever done a vision board i
have seen people do them i have never
done one myself it’s a great experience
and there’s scientific
proof around why it works in fact one of
the clients that i work with is the cdc
there’s a reticular activating system in
your brain
and it acts as a spam filter and so when
you create a vision board
you program your brain your subconscious
you say this is what’s important to me
and it tends to make you more aware of
opportunities and resources
to move you in that direction it’s just
a fun thing to do and it’s a great
way to communicate with others about
what’s most important
i have a pro bono commitment the last
few years every quarter
i facilitate a a vision board workshop
for
the women’s academy at wellspring living
which is an organization in town that
helps to rehabilitate victims of sex
trafficking
and that’s just amazing because i i show
these women how to picture what their
life
is going to look like and then they get
up at the end and they do an impromptu
show and tell and uh it’s very powerful
because it it
allows them to claim the life that they
deserve but also to communicate that to
their colleagues and the staff
at wellspring so that they can help to
support that
now there might be some people in the
nation that are listening and they’ve
never heard of the term
vision board how would you describe that
to them ah so vision board is simply
a bulletin board or a cork board where
you place
images and words and phrases
of what you want to manifest in your
life
and there are many ways to do it some
people have different boards for
different goals some people
segment the boards in different
categories like relationships and money
and health and i always say you know
when someone says am i doing it right i
said well how does it make you feel and
if
it resonates with you then yes you’re
doing it right and so you create this
board
and it’s an organic process so you
continue to add to it prune it as you go
along
and then you place it somewhere that
you’ll see every day and what i always
recommend is i say if you can just spend
about a minute with the board each day
and ask yourself this simple question
which is what’s one thing i can do today
to bring me closer to this reality and
it’s a very powerful tool
and it’s fun to do with with groups
whether it’s
team members at your company or family
or friends
it’s just a fun way to reflect
to um maybe get enough courage to
to claim what you want and then to be
able to
to talk about it with other people and
and find out how you can support each
other
i i can’t think of any other process
where you
are able to do that you know just
talking about it just writing
goals down it’s not the same as when you
have that
full picture of a vision board so i’m
trying to think just so
people get the imagery so i’m trying to
reach more people in my water treatment
community we’re trying to get more
listeners so what would some of the
things be for a vision board around that
i know they’d be personal for me but
just talking out loud
sure so well you know think about you
know if you close your eyes and you
imagine what that actually looks like
and then if you can come up with a
picture whether
you cut it out of a magazine or you you
you draw it or you find it on the
internet
whether it’s you know a group of people
that you you can claim to be
the kind of clients that you want to
work with also i think inspirational
quotes for a lot of people
are very powerful so you might have a
quote there around building up your
business
now those are some of the things you
know typically people in a vision board
they’ll put they’ll
include things around family and
relationships
health finances work related
fun you know if if you’ve always wanted
to
enjoy a particular sport but you never
feel felt like you had enough time
just put a picture of what that is on
there and it’ll be interesting to see
how that starts to become more available
to you
well that’s very interesting i might try
that
okay good i hope you do and i hope you
let me know what you think when you do
it
i definitely will and the reason i
wanted to so badly bring you on scaling
up h2o was i really
enjoyed what you said at the small
business matters conference you seem
to have boiled down five simple steps
that just makes our life a little bit
easier and i was hoping you would share
with the scaling up nation
what those five steps are sure so my
book is called working with wisdom
ten universal principles for enlightened
entrepreneurs
and when i first started speaking i
covered
all 10 principles from the book so
they’re all great strategies they’ve
been around forever
there’s strategies like defining your
life purpose and staying present and
embracing prosperity
and although my audiences seem to be
inspired
a lot of them were somewhat overwhelmed
it was just too much information
and some of what i was sharing i believe
was butting up against their own
limiting beliefs and i thought well let
me do this differently because i wanted
to really serve my audience and and
sometimes you know
as you know when you speak if you throw
too many things at them
nothing sticks so i thought well let me
just focus on five and then if i could
come up with an
acronym to make it easier to remember
and to practice and to share with others
and then if that acronym could be a
juicy kind of emotion-packed acronym
then i’d have something
and that’s where crave came in so that’s
how i created
oh about 10 years ago crave your goals
and crave as an acronym for five steps
would you like to know what those are
very much i would like to know what
those are
okay so the first is clean out the
clutter
clutter distracts and confuses us it
drains our energy
and it keeps us from doing what’s most
important it gets in the way of our
goals and our dreams
so we have physical clutter like a messy
office
or perhaps even you know if a lot of
your listeners are
driving around a lot it might be a messy
car you know messy trunk
messy front or back seat so that’s
that’s clutter that gets in the way
there’s also you know uh the clutter of
a
jam-packed clothes closet where the
clothes no longer half the clothes no
longer fit
your size your lifestyle or perhaps your
era
now i’ve got to stop you there because
my wife made me read this book last year
it was called the japanese
art of tidying up by marie kondo and
now stacy my wife i love her but now we
have these closet days and we’ve gotta
take things out
and see if we’re gonna use them and then
we’ll donate them which is a good thing
but it has just been i wouldn’t say it’s
the most fun thing that i have to do on
my weekend
but do you feel better i will tell you
that the things that are in my closet
are things that i wear there’s nothing
else in there and i can
find them i had so much stuff that i
didn’t know that i
had and they would have they would have
just stayed in my closet and the cool
thing about it is that i was able to let
them go and now i know
people that need them are actually using
them and that’s probably the best part
of it
oh isn’t that great you recognize just
how much abundance we all have
and sometimes yeah it’s time to let some
of our stuff go so that we can
support the success of other people now
in the book she did go into
you go into thanking the item now i will
admit i do not do that
uh but i i do appreciate that i have it
and then i set it free to go
live with somebody else but i do enjoy
being able to find things
when i need to find them yes yes just
think of how much time and energy you’re
saving
so that’s the physical clutter but then
you have the the technical clutter you
know that’s the information overload
spending too much time on the internet
your over reliance on your cell phone
and then you’ve got the emotional
clutter and that’s the stuff that keeps
us up at night it’s the
what ifs the regrets the resentments the
unfinished business unnecessary
obligations
it’s the toxic people in our life you
know i like to say those are the ones
that light up a room
when when they leave it
[Laughter]
so clutter is a big issue there’s a
universal law that says the universe
abhors
a vacuum and so when you release the
stuff that doesn’t serve you
you allow the universe to fill it with
what serves your highest good
so that’s i’m so glad when i came up
with the cray formula that
that clean out the clutter was first
because most people will say that’s
where they start
in order to get through any of the other
strategies
well that’s interesting i know a lot of
us maybe didn’t think of clutter
outside of what’s on our desks or what’s
in our cars
so you’re you’re making us think about
all the clutter that we have in our
lives and i’ve got to ask you
and maybe you’re going to get to this
and i don’t want to uh cut you short
but is there a right and wrong way to
start
that’s a good question and i don’t know
the answer to it i think
certainly everybody has their own ideas
and personalities when it comes to
things like that i always say just
set a timer for 15 minutes everybody can
find 15 minutes in the day
and just begin wherever you want to
begin maybe someplace
easy like a a junk drawer or just a you
know one file cabinet or whatever it
might be
and then you know after 15 minutes you
know you’re free to do whatever else you
want
chances are you’ll continue if you’ve
got the time but sometimes if we if we
tell ourselves it’s only for a short
period of time
that’s what helps us to get started i
like that advice because we can do
anything for 15 minutes
although if we do the marie condo
approach you’re supposed to
dump everything out so then you’re kind
of stuck until you’re finished
yeah that’s true well that’s when i
clean out my closet that’s what i do i
pull everything out
it’s i find that’s the only way to
really do a good job
but then you have to figure out you got
a half a day’s worth of work that you
need to focus on
well i think i’m going to take 15
minutes today and i’m going to clean out
something and i will report back to you
on that oh good i like that so i’m
giving you these assignments already
okay that’s right
so so the next step for r is raise your
energy
and what i explain is that energy
management is just
as important as time management when it
comes to achieving goals
and we are all vibrational energy beings
we
vibrate at different levels at different
times and vibrations is just another
word for feelings and emotions it’s our
attitude
and when we’re taking good care of
ourselves and we feel appreciated
we’ll vibrate at a high positive
constructed level
and because energy attracts like energy
will attract people in circumstances
that vibrate that same level
but when we’re burned out and stressed
out we’re not taking good care of
ourselves
we’ll vibrate at a low dark negative
level and because misery loves company
will attract people in circumstances
that vibrate at that same level
so the more that you’re aware of where
your energy is
and find ways to bring your energy up
we’re not talking about frenetic energy
we’re just talking about healthy energy
it really makes a difference so i always
say you know think about what your mom
and your doctor has always told you you
know eat healthy
drink plenty of water get enough rest
sleep is a big issue for a lot of people
and then get some exercise in some type
of physical activity
but then it goes deeper than that it’s
about spending time with positive
successful
supportive people and less time with the
others
you know it’s about enjoying great music
it’s about dancing
singing singing with others doing what
brings you joy
practicing random and not so random acts
of kindness
spending time in nature is a big a big
energy booster for a lot of people
i’m curious how do you raise your energy
i would say
that my favorite thing to do with that
is scuba dive i’m a scuba dive
instructor
and i just feel so right with
everything after i finished a scuba dive
yes oh yes i don’t scuba dive i
i snorkel but i often when i’m
snorkeling think i wish
everyone in the world could have this
experience to just be in
the world of the tropical fish and just
enjoy that talk about a stress reliever
and you can take that that that feeling
with you once you
have left that area too it stays with
you if you wanted to
yeah i think i experienced a lot of
different levels when i scuba dive the
one that i think
is the best for me is is that weightless
feeling that i can
i can fly around like superman i don’t
have my cell phone down there with me
which is
awesome they don’t work underwater and
it’s very difficult to talk underwater
so you’re alone
with your thoughts so all of those
things just really
play really well with me and then you
add all the beautiful things that you
get to see underwater and it
just makes just leaves me feel awesome
good
so you want to know the next step i
would love to know the next step
okay so a is for a firm success
now studies show that we speak to
ourselves at least 10 000 times a day
and 80 percent of that tends to be
negative even the most enlightened of us
because we’re programmed to protect
ourselves against worst case scenarios
but the good news is that affirmations
or positive self-talk
can help counter those negative messages
with ones that support our success
and the rule of thumb when it comes to
affirmations is to keep them positive
in the present and brief do you use
affirmations
i do not and the thing that comes to
mind when you say that
is the saturday night live skit the
stuart smalley guide you know what i’m
talking about
i sure did i’ve even blogged about him
yeah i’m good enough i’m strong enough
and gosh darn it people like me
exactly so for somebody like me that
doesn’t use those and maybe
the only thing i know about them is
stuart smalley
what advice do you have for me so the
news is
that you are using affirmations but
probably most of them are negative
so you probably have been saying to
yourself in certain challenging
situations
i’ll never figure this out i’m not smart
enough you know it’s not going to happen
for me
those kinds of things we all do and so
once you start to become more aware
of those negative messages that we all
tell ourselves if you can start to flip
them around to the positive then you
start to
use affirmations that that will support
you
so i’ll tell you a little story about an
affirmation that’s worked really well
for me
so i i was writing my book and
decided that i wanted to become a good
speaker and i’d spoken with my marketing
business
over the years but not as a paid
professional speaker so
i joined toastmasters and i started go
to the meetings and when i got up enough
courage i signed up for the five to
seven minute icebreaker talk
and i was a mess my mouth was dry my
legs were shaking my heart was racing i
held on to that lecture and from dear
life i fumbled for my note cards like i
didn’t know the subject which was me
that’s the ice breaker and you’re
supposed to talk about yourself
and so i went through that about three
humbling times until finally a kind
evaluator said to me you know you’ve
fallen in love with your words
you are a writer before you’re a speaker
and you’ve written this script and
you’re speaking from your head instead
of your heart
and he was right so when i went home
that day and i thought well one of the
strategies that i’m writing about in
this book can help me to become a better
speaker and i realize
it was a simple affirmation which was i
love to speak
because i really did love to speak i
just wasn’t very good at it
so i started to say to myself i started
to say it out loud i started to say to
my family who knew i was struggling with
this
my friends would say how’s that speaking
going i’d say oh i’d love to speak come
hear me speak
and i was using that affirmation as part
of faking it until
you can make it and then on the next
time on my way to my toastmasters
meeting
i remember in the car going i love to
speak i love to speak i love to share my
wisdom
when i got to the meeting a well-meaning
member of the group came running over to
me and said ah you’re on the agenda
today
you’re speaking are you nervous and i
said no i love to speak
i really knocked him over but i did a
pretty good job and i got better and
better
i remember you told that story at tim’s
conference
and a friend of mine who was a sponsor
his name was garrett he was very nervous
about getting
in front of everybody and that was the
first thing that he said when he got in
front of
so you inspired him that’s right i
remember him walking up very sheepishly
to the microphone and going
i love to speak everybody got a kick out
of that
but yeah really think about the the
skills you need to master to achieve the
goals you crave
you know it could be i love to ask for
help i love to learn new things i love
to learn
new technology you know anything that’s
kind of keeping you back just by
saying something like that at first you
may not believe it but eventually
it’ll give you that confidence and that
focus that you need
it’s a it’s a powerful tool and um yeah
i hope you
so here’s your other assignment so you
know come up with an affirmation think
about a challenge that you have
maybe you know related to business and
think about an
affirmation that your coach or your best
friend
might tell you that’s another thing what
would my coach or best friend tell me
and why aren’t i saying that to myself
and then
and then write it out post it places
you’ll see every day
like your bathroom mirror the dashboard
of your car
maybe by your your computer screen
because we get distracted and it helps
to have that reminder
and whenever you can just say to
yourself say it out loud
when it’s appropriate say to other
people affirmations are
a really powerful tool no i’ve never
really looked at it before until you
mentioned it that
i do program that it’s more negative
and and hardly any positive so that’s
that’s something
interesting to realize and if that’s the
dialogue that we’re
going on and on with internally those
are the things that we’re gonna seek out
so i like what you’re saying
that’s right that’s right just play with
it it’s fun and if you start to hear
yourself saying the negative
yeah just just flip it just keep
flipping it awesome i
am curious though what were you blogging
about stuart smalley
oh about about how he introduced
affirmations to a whole generation
yeah because that’s that’s how most
people know and it’s interesting you
know when i talk about affirmations
sometimes people will say um i don’t use
them because i don’t want to
jinx myself and i the first time i heard
that i thought that’s
interesting and for that person that was
that was real to them that that was a
real issue for them
because um you know if you say you’re
going to do something you don’t do
something
it’s you know for some people that’s uh
you know a challenge so
i don’t know does that ever come up for
you like if you
if you if you thought about an
affirmation but it’s not true yet that
you might jinx yourself
no i don’t think it does for me i think
i’m always looking to see
you know what the next step is what is
the goal that i’m trying to achieve
so for me no it doesn’t okay good
well there’s a v in there what’s the
next step yeah these are visualize
so every top athlete has harnessed the
power of visualization
the runner sees herself breaking through
the tape at the end of the race the
golfer sees the hole in one
even my son connor i’ve got 25 year old
twins now
boy and girl connor and allison when
conor was about 10 years old
he told me that he imagined catching the
crucial
inning ending fly ball even before it
was hit to him in center field
when he was playing little league
imaginated i love it
imaginative yeah he coined that so you
know what can you imagine it what can
you
visualize about the goals that you say
are important to you
and the idea is to so say you
are going to make a good example would
be you’re going to make a presentation
in front of a group
so the morning before you do that just
spend a couple of minutes
just picturing yourself doing just a
great job and having the audience
respond
so favorably and so you’re picturing
that whether it’s a still picture or a
motion picture
and then you are you’re you’re infusing
it
with all your senses you know it’s more
than just what you look like
of course it’s what you sound like and
you you’re feeling everything so you’re
creating this new
new reality and then to infuse it with
the emotions that you feel
so it could be pride it could be joy
it could be relief and that’s that’s
when things really start to happen so
you have the picture
then you engage all your your the senses
and then you infuse it with all the
different emotions and if you can do
that before a particularly challenging
event in your life especially
or a goal that you’re trying to reach
you’ll find that you’re more calm
you’ll find that you’re more confident
and it’s kind of like mental rehearsal
and then of course we talked about
vision boards that’s one of the best
ways to accelerate the power of
visualization
by creating a vision board yeah i love
this one i’m a huge fan of the seven
habits of highly effective people and
habit two
is begin with the end in mind and if you
can visualize
where you’re going what it looks like
what it feels like
then it’s just going to help you get
there and you know when you’ve arrived
that’s right that’s right well awesome
now there’s one more that starts with e
yeah and that’s express thanks
cultivating
an attitude of gratitude because what we
focus
on expands and what we appreciate
appreciates
and we tend to focus on what’s not going
right what we don’t have instead of what
is going right and what we do have
so a simple way to cultivate that
attitude of gratitude
is to keep a gratitude journal just a
simple notebook that you keep by your
bed and a few nights a week
write a brief list of what you are
grateful for that day
and include one unique entry so that
gets you during the day to
think well what am i going to add to my
gratitude journal and you notice i said
a couple of nights a week a short list
you know this does not take much time or
energy but once you start doing it
you will be committed to it because
it’ll make you feel good
it’ll get you to focus on what what good
came that day
because we tend to you know it’s just
human nature at the end of the day
we’re thinking about all the things that
didn’t go right and all the mistakes
that we made the
the connections we weren’t able to make
whatever it might be
and instead when you focus on what’s
going
right it gives you more peace of mind it
makes you more positive
it’ll help you get a better night’s
sleep so the next morning you can be
even more productive
do you ever recommend that you express
thanks for what others have done maybe
with a written note does that go in
there as well yes exactly yeah so
you know there’s a famous gallup poll
that says the number one
reason why someone decides to leave
their job
in a good economy is not because of not
enough money or too much stress
it’s because they simply did not feel
appreciated
so think about the people in your life
both professionally and personally
and are you are you telling them enough
how much you appreciate
who they are and how they support your
success
you know whether it’s related to goals
or perhaps
just getting having more better balance
in your life
and there was a there was a great book
that came out many years ago
called the five love languages are you
familiar with that
i am familiar with that i am words of
affirmation
ah words of affirmation so i am time
together
that’s my number one and and a couple
years ago
they did a a business version of that
book
and it was i think it’s called something
like the five
languages of appreciation in the
workplace using the same
five so it’s it’s gifts words of
affirmation
time service and touch
yeah so those were the the five so my
thought is on this is you know you we
each have our own preference but
everybody else has their own preference
as well
so when you’re trying to truly show
appreciation to someone else
it’s worth it to find what their
predominant
preference is when it comes to
expressing appreciation
that’s such a great point i never
thought about it until you just said it
there’s lots of things i’ve realized
that you’ve brought to light today
but i remember years ago somebody sent
me a thank you card and nobody does that
anymore nobody takes the time to
actually put a pen to paper and then put
a stamp on it and mail it
but i remember i got it at a time in my
life when a lot of things were happening
and it was just so good to see that this
person cared enough to thank me for
something that i
did for them and it really it really
made me feel good
and i guess that’s because of the words
of affirmation that that i
uh i really identify with but since that
day
i try to take time and send cards
out to other people because it made me
feel so good
good for you good for you yeah doesn’t
always happen
but i do try to do that yeah and you’re
way ahead because most people will not
you know so it really stands out you
know you’ll get the emails but not
not the notes in in the mail and when
you get a note like that don’t you post
it
and don’t you look at it much more often
than you would an email
actually i have one that my wife had
packed in my lunch years ago she found
this little quirky card and it was
two goldfish and one goldfish was
jumping out of his bowl to get
into the other goldfish bowl and said
you know i want to be with you or
something i can’t remember what the
inside
of the card said but the outside of the
card i actually framed and it’s in my
office here so
yeah absolutely yeah yeah that’s sweet
so let’s recap for the scaling up nation
so
what are what’s the acronym and what are
the five steps again
so crave stands for clean out the
clutter physical
technical emotional clutter that gets in
the way
r is for raise your energy a is for a
firm success
use positive self-talk b is for
visualize
and e is for express thanks cultivating
that attitude of gratitude
i am pretty sure that there are people
out there listening that says
this sounds great or maybe this even
sounds
too new age for them to try so my
question for you on their behalf is that
this sounds
way too simple does it really work
yes it does but you know it’s
interesting too
like um i was doing a a talk recently
and someone was challenging the concept
of affirmations and i realized that for
some reason
they thought it was like a magical
incantation
and so once we talked a little bit more
you know i explained
yes affirmations will help you stay
positive
and get you pointed in the right
direction but you got to do the work
it just doesn’t happen you just don’t
say it and it appears
so i think that’s a big piece of it too
these are all tools
these are all tools but you’ve got to do
the work it’s it’s
you know nothing comes that easy are
there any
extraordinary clients that you’ve worked
with where and by extraordinary i mean
that
talking with you they might have had
certain issues they were dealing with
and they did
some or all of these things and they
just had fantastic results
sure you know so many different
anecdotal
information that i get back from people
that i’ve worked with
sometimes it has to do with getting
enough confidence
to apply for promotion at work um
and then excel once they do that but
before they they had all these doubts
and they weren’t sure if they could
handle leading other people and also
what that would mean for
their family life and if their family
would suffer
if they took on a leadership role so
between affirmations and visualization
and all of that they were able to
to move forward and make it work i’m
trying to think of
some of the things that that i’ve worked
on uh you know one time
we talked about the toxic people thing
and how that keeps people back
and i got a note from somebody who was
in my audience saying i know this might
sound silly but i’m so glad that you
gave me permission
to end that toxic relationship and i
don’t know why i
held on to it for so long but when you
explained
how what effect it was having on me and
my family
i realized that it was time i got the
courage up to to end that relationship
so you know you just never know what
you’ll say that’ll that’ll grab
somebody’s attention
i was talking about the gra the power of
the gratitude journal
when i spoke last week to a group of
ceos
and afterwards this woman came up to me
and she said you know a few years ago i
picked up a gratitude
gratitude journal at a goodwill store
when i got it home i realized that the
first couple of
pages had already been written in it and
so i started to read
about what this woman was grateful for
and it wasn’t until the second page
that i realized she had no legs oh wow
yeah and so what a gift that was for
for this woman that was talking to me
to put things into perspective she says
because i was in a dark place and i was
trying to figure out
you know maybe by using a gratitude
journal that i would feel better
and reading that just put everything in
perspective and i recognized it i had
nothing
you know i had nothing to uh to complain
about i could
i had i had what it took to do what i
needed to do
wow i love that story that’s very
impactful yeah
it is it is another thing when you talk
about affirmations the other day
somebody was sharing about how
they recognize the power of affirmation
so much that
you know like if you use your phone as
your
as your alarm clock and usually well for
me i
i pick just a a tone that’s pleasant
enough but will wake me up
well she said that there’s a place on
the phone and i have to go look at it
and do it for myself
where you can just record your own voice
and what she does is she has about a
minute of
affirmations that she records and so
that’s what she wakes up to in the
morning
interesting i wonder if there’s a book
out there that explains what your
ringtone or what your alarm tone
actually says about you mine’s lion king
i wake up to the lion king theme every
single morning
oh that’s great that’s great so what’s
the alternative if somebody says okay
this sounds great but you know i’m not
going to do it there’s no reason to do
it i don’t see
that i’m going to bring this into my
life what’s the default to not doing
this
well staying where you are i mean some
people
are satisfied with their status quo
and that’s fine too but you know if you
aspire
to do more if you feel like you have a
purpose in life that you need to express
if you know you can make a difference in
other people’s lives
it it takes commitment and it takes you
know staying positive
in a world that sometimes can be very
negative
what’s the one thing that you want to
get through to the scaling up nation
from our interview it’s all about making
conscious choices
you know we make we make hundreds if not
thousands of choices
every day and if we took a step back and
looked at some of those choices that
were making and just simply asked
is this serving me there’s a lot of
choices that we would make differently
but we tend to get into a rut or a
routine
and i think we kind of dip ourselves
out of what the kind of life that we
could be living
so conscious choices is a big piece and
i know we
covered a lot of ground in a very short
amount of time and sometimes
visuals go a long way to help explaining
things
are there some items that you can share
with us so we can share with the scaling
up nation
on our show notes page and then how can
people find out more about
what you do and how they can start to do
some of those things as well
yes so my website is simply
trishamalloy.com and that’s
t-r-i-c-i-a-m-o-l-l-o-y
and i have a newsletter you can sign up
for on the home
page and i get that out about once a
week and it’s always
an inspiring story that’s related to
some of these strategies
and i have a i have an infographic a
crave info
graphic that i will send to you it’s
something that can be
printed and then posted of the four the
five crave steps so that would be
helpful
i also have an article that summarizes
what i’ve covered today
and i it’s something that will be a
refresher
to you but also a um
something that to share with somebody
else that may not have
listened to this podcast because i i
believe
one of the most powerful steps
you can take once you’re inspired by
something like this is to find an
accountability buddy
find someone who also wants to do the
crave steps and wants to
reach another level in their life and in
their business and so if you can find
somebody like that
you can hold each other accountable and
this article will summarize what we’ve
covered so it’ll make it a little easier
yeah i think that is so key about having
somebody
else beside yourself to hold you
accountable
because we are the first people that
will
let ourselves down and go throughout our
day i know when
i swim and when i meet somebody at the
pool
i go to the pool because i don’t want to
let them down
but when five o’clock in the morning
rolls around and i’m not meeting anybody
it is
so easy to turn that lion king song off
and go back to bed
that’s right hakuna matata
well this has been awesome i’m sure that
we have inspired a lot of people we’re
going to put some information up
on the show notes page so people can get
started with this
and i i know first hand by speaking with
you and doing some of the things that
you’ve said
that it really can make a difference i’m
really excited to hear
what the scaling up nation is doing from
this episode but i’m not quite done with
you yet i would like to ask you a few
lightning round questions
if you’re ready for that sure all right
so you now have the ability to go back
in time
you are going to go back in time to the
very first day you started as a
professional speaker what advice would
you give yourself
wow i think i would give myself the
advice to have enough courage to tell
my story so i’ve been speaking now
since professionally speaking since 2006
and it it’s only been the last couple
years
where i shared what in in the speaker
world is called
your origin story you know what
qualifies and motivates you
to share this message and so
if when i talk about that i talk about
that
you know i was living a great life and
um
my husband and i had three-year-old
twins and
and we were we were very very busy and
sometimes we were focused on
the wrong things and and our energies
got diverted into different
areas and and he he passed away
he died of a heart attack in his sleep
and so that was um
in 97 and
it was a turning point for me once i
once i recovered from that
i thought i’m not going to waste one
more day you know focus on things that
just don’t matter
and that took me in the direction of the
life that i chose to live
the writing the book the speaking and
talking to other people about what
what what’s really important in your
life and
and let’s get you focused on that
because none of us is guaranteed
tomorrow
that’s a very well taken point what are
the last three books that you’ve read
well i read a lot of articles and not
too many books lately but the book that
i’m reading now
is called atomic habits you familiar
with that book
i am not i think his name is james clear
and it’s a very good book about how to
get in the right mindset to develop
habits that will help you achieve goals
and one of the things he says in it that
i’m going to explore probably in
a blog post soon is the concept of
identity
you know what is your identity and do
you need to shift
what you assume your identity is in
order to be more successful
and he uses a simple example he says so
say you want to stop smoking and
somebody hands you a cigarette you can
either say no i’m trying to stop smoking
or no
i do not smoke you see the difference
there between i’m trying to stop smoking
and i’m not a smoker
right and that’s the idea of identity so
i’m gonna i’m gonna play with that
because it
ties right into developing new habits
and achieving goals so
that’s that’s an interesting book that i
recommend
all right well now this next question
actually comes from tim fulton i have
heard him ask it
many many times so i have adopted it
into my show but he would ask people
that eventually with a life like yours
they are going to make a movie about
you who plays you oh
yeah tim is a very wise man i’m
wondering who plays tim
i i see i always thought david letterman
and tim look very
similar oh definitely not not david
letterman with the beard the new david
letterman but the old david letterman
yeah
yeah david letterman the new david
letterman looks like santa claus i think
i agree yeah so who would play me
so are we thinking about
someone who physically looks like me or
energy or
i guess it could be any of that right as
tim would say it’s however you interpret
that question
yeah um i think i would go with uh julia
roberts
i think she has the range that would be
needed to to um
play me in in a movie i would probably
go with her or maybe laura linney
okay i think um because i like her as an
actress
yeah it’s kind of fun to think about it
you know what’s gonna happen hollywood’s
reviewing the script as we speak
my final question is you can now speak
with
anybody throughout history who to be
with and why
um i think it would be
benjamin franklin i’ve always admired
him
how creative he’s been what a problem
solver he was
and i once went to see an exhibit of his
inventions at the atlanta history center
and what struck me is a quote that was
on the wall that was attributed to him
and it was basically every morning when
he woke up
the thing that he would say the question
he would ask is what good
shall i do today and i do that every
morning
i think that’s great advice and a great
quote
well trisha thank you so much for coming
on scaling up h2o
i know you are going to inspire a lot of
people and i really appreciate you doing
it
well thank you for giving me this
opportunity i really enjoy speaking with
you
trisha thanks again great information
and folks i have to let you know i
recorded trisha
a while ago well before the pandemic it
was right after
tim fulton’s small business matters
conference
after i did my ted talk and of course i
shared that with her and you in the
interview itself
and folks i said this before but if you
are trying
something new if you’re coming out of
your
comfort zone and you are working on
something
brand new you’re getting nervous i
always love that feeling
and i describe that feeling i describe
the entire process that i went through
on
episode 92. by the way
that is how stephen covey talks about
the circle of influence and the circle
of concern and that’s what he talks
about
in habit one i always refer to habit one
being the habit of power
because you realize that habit one which
is
be proactive when you’re proactive
you’re no longer a victim you are taking
responsibility for
every single one of your choices you are
exactly
where you’re supposed to be right now in
life because
of all the things that happen to you now
maybe you don’t like that maybe you love
that
it doesn’t matter you’re there so
proactively the choices you make to
change things
are are proactive and that’s where you
get the power
and the way he describes proactive is
people
fall in two categories either proactive
or they’re reactive
if they are reactive they focus
on the outer circle which is called
the circle of concern and these are
things that happen
that concern us but we don’t necessarily
have control
over the inner circle is called the
circle of influence and this is where
the proactive person
focuses their decisions their
actions and eventually over time that
circle gets bigger and bigger and bigger
and things that used to lie
in the realm of just concerning them
they now actually have influence over
so being proactive habit number
one and we’re actually doing the seven
habits of highly effective people as
our book in the rising tide mastermind
and folks i have to tell you this has
been my absolute favorite
time teaching the seven habits of highly
effective people
to a group i have spoken about seven
habits
of highly effective people help them
read it through
on their own as a book and i’ve loved
doing that since i was
19 years old i truly love this material
but there’s just something about doing
it with fellow water treaters
and it’s not just me sharing information
we’re going around the entire group
they’re explaining how they understand
what they’re reading
and i have read this book dozens of
times
and because of how we’re doing it i am
getting so
much out of it myself in the seven
habits it says when you teach something
you are going to get
more out of it than what you put in and
i have to tell you that is definitely
what is going on here
and we are just loving this book and
discussing it in the rising tide
mastermind but let’s get back to that
vision board that trisha
asked me about here it is almost a year
later
after trisha and i finished this
interview
and i am reporting to the scaling up
nation
i still have not done a vision board in
fact
last year at one of my retreats
we were instructed to
do a vision board and share it with the
rest of
the business group team well
i tried and my mind just doesn’t work
that way i know
a lot of people do vision boards a good
friend of mine does and he’s an
artist and it’s just fantastic to walk
into his
office and he’s just so creative
and he’s got all of these different
things that he’s put on one of his walls
and when he gets stuck for an idea he
just stares i mean
this is probably hundreds of pictures on
his wall
and he gets inspired from that well i
started thinking
as i was having so much issue creating
my own
vision board for this retreat that
the reason i didn’t do well with the
vision board is i actually connect
differently if you’ve ever seen a
picture of my office you’ll see that i
have
back to the future stuff all over
my office and i explain why i have the
back to the future stuff if you listen
to
episode 92 i use that movie as a
metaphor
on how we do our business planning but
i also noticed that i have these little
totems
all over my office to
remind me and then also people in my
company of
things that we do and we need to
continue doing
an example of that is you know i’m very
fond of the book
traction that talks about the
entrepreneur operating system
well right there in the middle of our
conference table there is a school bus
and that’s to remind us that we have to
have
the right people on the right seats
of the bus and we even continue the
metaphor out even
further we say that the bus
needs to be tuned up the wheels need to
be in shape and balance and all those
things
as a metaphor for our company needs to
make sure that all of our planning
all of our metrics are in order so
that’s making sure that the bus
is ready to take a road trip i kind of
consider
myself as the bus driver so i’m steering
us
where we need to go there’s another
individual that’s
making sure that we’re financially
healthy and then as the people board the
bus
those are all the different seats or
positions that we have here
in the company that those right people
that
boarded the bus can choose to sit down
in so and then we have so much
of the different metaphors i can just
keep going on and on with the bus
i even all of our core values and by the
way the core values
that we have uh are what determines a
right person i have a certain totem
for each core value
in fact i will give you an example
of one of the totems that we use for a
core value
so one of our core values is solution
oriented and solution oriented we
define very specifically here in
our company and i think if you’re doing
your core values it’s very important
that you don’t only choose the word but
you choose what the definition
is and everybody knows that so not
important what our definition
is with that but with solution
oriented the totem i have is a stuffed
camel and i know you’re thinking what
the heck
does a stuffed camel have to do
with solution oriented well i’m going to
tell you the story
that i tell whenever i teach
our core values and we get to solution
oriented
so here’s the story there was an old
camel
farmer that passed away and he had
17 camels and the custom was
that he left the camels in the
order of most elise to oldest
to youngest son well he had three sons
so in his will he stated that he was
going to leave
one half of the 17 camels to his
oldest son one third of the 17
camels to his middle son and
one-ninth of the 17 camels
to his youngest son well of course after
the funeral
the reading of the will the sons got
together
and they tried to do the math but they
could not
get one half to divide into 17.
they couldn’t get one third of 17 and
they couldn’t get
one 9th of 17. they tried and tried they
stayed up all night they wanted to make
sure
that they honored their father’s wishes
and they just couldn’t do it so they
decided that they were going to walk
into the village
and consult this wise old woman that
lived in the village
they told her of their issue and the old
woman kind of scratched her head and she
said well
i really can’t help you but i will
give you my camel i have one camel and
perhaps
that might help you with your issue so
not knowing what to do the three
brothers took her
camel back to their farm and they
started dividing up the camels they took
one half of 18 because they now had an
extra camel they had 18 camels now
one half of 18 is nine the oldest
brother took nine camels
they took one third of 18 which was
six the middle brother took six camels
they then took one ninth of 18 which
was two the youngest brother took his
two
they added all of those up and came up
with 17
and had one camel left over that they
returned to the wise old
woman so here’s the point of the story
and here’s why we use the camel
as the symbol for solution oriented
the solution was always there
it wasn’t until they looked outside of
the box for a
different solution that they were able
to
solve the problem so
the next time you are faced with an
issue
and you can’t necessarily find
a common solution think of the camel
and maybe that might orient you
to a solution you’ve never thought about
so now you know a little bit about the
totems in my office and
i am going to declare
that that is my version of
the vision board and if you’ve ever come
to my office i will
gladly show you all these little
trinkets and toys and posters and all
this stuff that we have
that i can tell you a story about
so i hope that today’s episode gets you
thinking about a whole bunch of things
but especially about improving
your work life balance life balance
let’s just face it work life balance is
something that is
so easy to get off balance
with how we’re working in 2020
and by the way we hold each other
accountable in the rising tide
mastermind
for making sure we are doing the
important things that we have to do
not just at work but in every
relationship that we have in our lives
and then we go even further we hold each
other accountable that they’re going to
do the things
that they say they’re going to do with
each one of those relationships
well folks next week another brand new
episode
it is a pinks and blues episode
which means it’s going to be just with
me
and just with you so it’s our private
little podcast that we have together
and then the week after that it is the
awt
virtual convention so i told you about
all the cool things that i’m going to be
doing there
i hope to see you at one of those events
that i mentioned and folks you
definitely want to tune in
for the friday episode that’s taking
place
during the convention because i have
some
really exciting news to announce to you
i can’t tell you about it now but i will
tell you about it then
and then of course the week after that
each and every day of that week
we will be doing something special for
industrial
water week folks i hope you have a
terrific
rest of your week i will be coming at
you next week with that brand new pinks
and blues
episode in the meantime please stay safe
out there
and have a great week folks
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scouting up nation on episode 136 you
heard from four members of the rising
tide
mastermind one of those members was eric
russo
and eric is an extremely busy individual
and i asked him the question how
he found the time and why he decided to
join the rising tide
mastermind here’s what he said like most
people in the water treatment industry
there’s always a struggle with work and
life and
i had a daughter on the way and i was
probably a little more mindful of how
much i was working
and how i can adjust my schedule or make
it in such a way that was sustainable
for my family
and this conversation is a little more
difficult when you don’t have people in
the water treatment industry because
they don’t understand the
travel aspect the service aspect the
technical
uh knowledge need to be successful it’s
a little
more difficult to balance that so to
have a group of like-minded individuals
to work through
with the goal of self-development it’s
really helpful to kind of hash through
those problems for me
have you ever noticed that if you want
something done
you give it to a busy person why is that
why do busy people
always seem to get something
done and we always wonder why but
there’s a secret to that
most busy people if they’re busy on the
right things it means that they
are successful and they’ve learned to
say
yes to the things that help with
their success however they define
success
think about that when was the last time
you thought to yourself how do i
define success well those are some of
the questions that we ask in the rising
tide
mastermind and eric asked himself if i
joined the rising tide mastermind
will this make me a better husband will
this make me a better father will this
make me
a better water treater and eric has told
me that it has done
all of those things and he is sure glad
that he decided to join folks
i cannot say enough good things about
being involved in a mastermind group i
ask that you go to
scalinguph2o.com forward slash
mastermind to see if being a member of
the rising tide mastermind
is right for you and if you decide that
it
is not please find a group that
is right for you when we get together
with other people that are concerned
about everyone’s success everyone
gets better and the tide rises all boats
you