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The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships Audible Audiobook – Abridged

John Gottman PhD (Author, Narrator), Joan DeClaire (Author), Random House Audio (Publisher)
4.5 4.5 out of 5 stars 1,610 ratings
Leading relationship expert and best selling author Dr. John Gottman presents a revolutionary five-step program for repairing troubled relationships - with spouses, children, friends, and even colleagues. Drawing on a host of powerful new studies Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive.

Introducing the empowering concept of the "emotional bid," Gottman shows that all good relationships are built through a process of making and receiving successful bids. His simple yet life-transforming program shows listeners how to become master bidders by effectively turning toward others. He draws on the latest research to show listeners how the brain's unique emotional command systems, as well as each person's emotional heritage - their upbringing, life experiences, and enduring vulnerabilities - affect how they make and receive bids, and how to make adjustments. He then introduces a set of enjoyable and remarkably effective ways to deepen connections by finding shared meaning and honoring one another's dreams. The final chapter offers specially tailored programs for life's most important relationships: with lovers or spouses, children, adult siblings, friends, and co-workers.

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Listening Length 5 hours and 47 minutes
Author John Gottman PhD, Joan DeClaire
Narrator John Gottman PhD
Audible.com Release Date May 15, 2001
Publisher Random House Audio
Program Type Audiobook
Version Abridged
Language English
ASIN B00005LDGF
Best Sellers Rank #7,350 in Audible Books & Originals (See Top 100 in Audible Books & Originals)
#28 in Emotions
#56 in Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships
#86 in Emotional Self Help

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Customers find the book provides useful insights and strategies for successful relationships. They describe it as a great, easy read with a strong scientific basis. Many consider it worth the price and time to read. However, opinions differ on the content - some find it basic and practical, while others say it's common sense and there are too many quizzes.

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Customers find the book helpful for all relationships. It offers practical ideas and strategies for successful relationships. The book teaches fundamentals about communication and social skills, helping readers improve interactions with parents, children, friends, and coworkers. Readers mention that simple actions can enhance or damage relationships.

"...iI was absolutely blown away by the accuracy of this book and its uses. I found out so many things about my relationship with my husband...." Read more

"...are wonderful and clear, providing tangible facts and tools for building a better relationship. I've grown so much just by reading his material...." Read more

"Lots of great information and interactive tools in this book. Ive not yet finished it all the way but it really, so far has been very interesting." Read more

"...research can be uncomfortable, his suggestions for successful relationships are marvelously applicable." Read more

103 customers mention "Readability"99 positive4 negative

Customers find the book easy to read and understand. They say it's well-written with a strong scientific basis. The book is helpful and provides clear directives and examples. Readers consider it worth the price and time to read.

"...This book gave me exact step by step instructions if you will, to apply into my daily life. . While he or she may be the problem...." Read more

"...It does not deal with gender stereotypes or cookie cutter instructions on how to act like a desirable man or a woman...." Read more

"As always, John Gottman's books are wonderful and clear, providing tangible facts and tools for building a better relationship...." Read more

"...So simple, right? Like Gottman's other books, the simple information is challenging to assimilate...." Read more

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Customers find the book a good value for money.

"...We are all a work in progress. Totally worth the price and time to read." Read more

"...similar content to his others, but the section on "bids" is worth the price of admission. Highly recommend...." Read more

"Great value in the book. Be interested in your relationships and create bonding...." Read more

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6 customers mention "Content"3 positive3 negative

Customers have mixed opinions about the content. Some find it basic and practical, providing a basic foundation upon which to build. Others feel it's overly simplified, with too many quizzes and repetitive content.

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"...It's a good insightful book, but I was not blown away. It's content is all commen sense...." Read more

"...importance of "emotinal bidding" and the way of receiving it is something bery basic and immediate practical help in every relationship...." Read more

"Good concepts and insights, but the book is much too wordy and repetitive. It would be a better book if it were half as long, or even shorter." Read more

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  • Debbie MOM of 5!!
    5.0 out of 5 stars . AWESOME< INCREDIBLE BOOK: Best relationship book of alltime. If applied this book will change your life!
    Reviewed in the United States on November 9, 2015
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    Will help your relationships even if your significant other does not read it! Why do I know this? Because the only person you can change is yourself. When you decide to change and if you decide to use the techniques in this book to do so then your relationships have no other choice but to change.... for the better if that is your goal. iI was absolutely blown away by the accuracy of this book and its uses. I found out so many things about my relationship with my husband. I knew it was bad .. but I had no idea how bad or how to fix it. This book gave me exact step by step instructions if you will, to apply into my daily life. . While he or she may be the problem. I can assure you that whatever you are doing as a result of it is most likely not making it better or you wouldn't be looking for this type of book. This takes Dr. Phil's (Oprah Winfrey's friend on tv) advice much further and gives you not only the reasons but the conversations you can have and the things you need to know about each other for change to take place. A true must for couples looking to get married, or recently did get married, or have been married and are looking for the door. Even you happy folks can gain by the knowledge that your doing things right by the book so you don't need to be worried.
    I have been making changes everyday which are affecting all the people I deal with for the better, even though for me I KNEW he was and still is the problem. LOL!
    Cream of the crop of relationship books and for the past 20 years, I thought that I had read them all .. This book is better than all of those put together!!
    Not a quick or fast read. It is more of a study book and a life guide book.
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  • Snehurka
    5.0 out of 5 stars One of the few scientifically supported relationship books out there
    Reviewed in the United States on June 13, 2016
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    Wish it came in a Kindle version. The best book to read if you're struggling with relationships.

    This book is a reader friendly overview of Gottman's scientific research on romantic interpersonal relationships. In the past I had read a ton of other relationship books, but none of these were substantiated by published, peer reviewed, scientific research. Since I'm working on my own PhD, at some point the lighbulb went off, and I did some research in the university library on what to read...and found out that Gottman is one of the few well respected academic experts on interpersonal romantic relationships (and other things.) If you look into some of the Interpersonal Communication psychology textbooks, some of them even compare Gottman's research to the gender stereotyped stuff that's out there...well, let's just say I had wasted a lot of money on things like Mars/Venus.

    Overall, I was very happy to read this book. It does not deal with gender stereotypes or cookie cutter instructions on how to act like a desirable man or a woman. It also does not make you feel bad for not "understanding the system" or the "other gender" or whatever. Rather, it but substantiates the grown up point of view that we are all individual humans and that you actually have to do some homework - that you have to learn, and be attentive to, the specific ways that your special person communicates his/her needs and emotions, given their specific background and experiences, in your specific relationship.

    Not easy to do, and it means work on your part, but it takes away all those "I am not good at this so tell me what to do" feelings that the other amateur hack books out there pray on.
    30 people found this helpful
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  • S. Thompson
    4.0 out of 5 stars good content, small font
    Reviewed in the United States on January 1, 2010
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    As always, John Gottman's books are wonderful and clear, providing tangible facts and tools for building a better relationship. I've grown so much just by reading his material. My only complaint about this particular book is that the print is SO small!! The small print makes the content more daunting and difficult to read. It must be about 8pt. font. This is thick reading to start with, but add the small font and it becomes arduous. I might buy the Kindle version just so I can enlarge the font. Don't worry...I'm not some old foggy with bad eyesight. Just a person that doesn't want to work so hard to digest this great information!
    12 people found this helpful
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  • Kayla B
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very informative
    Reviewed in the United States on September 22, 2024
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    Lots of great information and interactive tools in this book. Ive not yet finished it all the way but it really, so far has been very interesting.
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  • Brandi
    5.0 out of 5 stars Ahh john gohtman
    Reviewed in the United States on September 20, 2016
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    Ah, John Gottman. Such wonderful research, such terrible titles.

    Anyway, I already had to return this book to the library so I can only give you my impressions-- as my sister says, "the spaghetti that's stuck to the wall." So here goes:

    Interactions involve people making "bids" for attention, affection, connection. When we respond successfully to others' bids, we are able to make strong and resilient relationships at home, work, school.

    When someone makes a bid, you can respond either by turning toward the bid and making that connection, or by turning away from the bid by ignoring it, or by turning against it by turning it into a chance to fight.

    So simple, right? Like Gottman's other books, the simple information is challenging to assimilate. I had to look at myself and realize how much turning away I do. And although I felt a little like an evil psychological mastermind, when I intentionally made bids and responded by turning toward bids at work-- wow. The sense of camaraderie and connection was palpable within a day or two.

    So although reading Gottman's wonderfully empirical research can be uncomfortable, his suggestions for successful relationships are marvelously applicable.
    242 people found this helpful
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  • Jonasaurus
    3.0 out of 5 stars It's a good insightful book
    Reviewed in the United States on February 27, 2016
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    I got this book for a school class. It's a good insightful book, but I was not blown away. It's content is all commen sense. If you need it for class get it, but I wasn't really impressed. But if you have relationship issues, aren't versed in this topic, don't want to delve super deep into relationship psychology and are seeking insight, it should help you.
    10 people found this helpful
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  • Tomas Mackus
    5.0 out of 5 stars Great book.
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 13, 2020
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    Arrived quickly and is very insightful.
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  • Karina Villarreal hinojosa
    5.0 out of 5 stars Excelente
    Reviewed in Mexico on April 11, 2019
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    Muy recomendable
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  • Aliitajung
    5.0 out of 5 stars Satisfied
    Reviewed in India on November 3, 2019
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    Worth buying
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  • gio
    5.0 out of 5 stars Da leggere!
    Reviewed in Italy on March 1, 2019
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    Un libro molto utile e interessante.
    Scritto in modo chiaro e comprensibile, meglio leggerlo in inglese, rimane molto più diretto e incisivo
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  • Gizelle
    5.0 out of 5 stars John Gottman is the King
    Reviewed in Canada on March 30, 2013
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    I bought the book not knowing exactly what to expect but since the reviews were very good I trusted them. This Book is by far the best self-help book I've ever read when it comes to relationships and how to express emotions in a relationship whether with your friends, your parents, your husband... The tone and words we use can make a huge difference and John Gottman learns us how to master it . I definitely recommend you this book with no hesitation, you will improve a lot of things in your everyday relationships.BUY IT AND CHANGE YOUR
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